"I just wanted to say thank you to you and the team at Sunrise for how awesome you all are. I hope you all had a wonderful holiday season and have a year filled with prosperity, health, love and happiness."
"I can't thank you enough for your wisdom, caring, intelligence and devotion. You have been such a solid, caring, positive and helpful force for me throughout this pregnancy. You have certainly improved the quality of my life through an unsettled time and helped me to make a decision that hopefully sets up me and my kids for a positive future Your graceful and gracious words of wisdom have helped me to keep my perspective and to improve my perspective too, by injecting positive thoughts".
"Everyone at Sunrise was very supportive when I was getting a little discouraged about finding the right couple. But, when I met the adopting parents, everything felt right and I'm very grateful to everyone at Sunrise for helping me to meet them. I know they will be wonderful parents and give Matthew a caring and loving home to grow up in. Thank you for everything you have done for me."
"You have great service. You were helpful and I am thankful for all your help in finding the right family for my child. Thanks."
"Sunrise are the nicest people I have ever met in my life. I could never thank them enough for helping me make the right choice for my baby."
About Birthmother's Day
This is the text of a speech given at the Birthmother's Day Picnic:
Birthmother's Day is a day to honor and remember the motherhood experience of birthmothers, the women who placed their children in adoption. It is held on the second Saturday in May, the day before Mother's Day.
Birthmother's Day was created in 1990 by a group of Seattle, Washington birthmothers who met each other at a birth parent support group. It grew out of the shared recognition that Mother's Day is one of the most painful days of the year - second only to the birthday of our children. Yet birthmothers have been shut out of the traditional celebration and remembrances of the holiday. Most birthmothers are neither named nor recognized among the mothers in our midst. For most birthmothers there are no cards or flowers. Society treats the motherhood of the birthmother as a momentary event that fades quickly from the collective memory.
A girl has many dreams of grown-up life when she is young: dreams of Prince Charming, her wedding, her house, and her kids. How many children will she have? What will they look like? Will they be boys, or girls? She thinks of their names. Never does a young girl think to herself, "I want to be a birthmother".
We never dreamed we would one day find ourselves in the position of having to make one of the most painful choices ever made in our lives. A choice that not only changed our life, but our family's life and the life of another family. This choice gave us the title of Birthmother.
When it comes to birthmothers, one size doesn't fit all. One of the most persistent myths is that they're unwed teenagers. Not so. Truth is, a birthmother (or "first mother", as they're also known) could be anyone: the girl next door, the woman in the next cubicle at work, your child's teacher, or a favorite aunt or cousin. In other words, women from all walks of life.
As birthmothers, we took the road less traveled. We did what we thought was best for our children and our lives at that time. Just because our children are not physically with us, does not mean we do not love them and cherish them.
In our birthmother's support group, I think I can safely say for all of us, that we don't feel like we have lost our child, but we feel we have gained an extension to our family. We have all chosen some form of an open adoption which has worked out to our expectations. We enjoy the time we get to spend with our children, and we also enjoy seeing our child bonded with their mom and dad. To watch them grow older and see how they interact with their families fills our hearts with so much love and admiration.